"The normal state of the mind is chaos without training, and people are unable to focus their thoughts for more than a few minutes at a time. The social roles our culture prescribes shape our minds
and we are on auto pilot"
-- Marcus Aurelius
Is anxiety or fear stopping you from living your life to the fullest? If so, I’m here to help.
Anxiety can be paralysing and stop you from enjoying everything life has to offer, but with my help, you can overcome it and take back control of your life.
If you suffer from anxiety, panic attacks or unnecessary fear, I can help teach you relaxation techniques and build up your very own 'anxiety toolkit' to dip in and out of whenever you feel anxious or new challenges come along. You will have this unique toolkit forever, and you can draw on the skills within the toolkit to meet difficult situations head on.
I work with adults and teenagers across a whole range of other issues, including:
Fear of flying
Weight loss & sugar cravings
It’s my goal to help you make the most of your strengths and your opportunities – to help you be more motivated and determined to succeed. By getting to know you, I’m able to tailor sessions that fit specifically around your needs and goals.
In hypnosis, I help you to re-associate with the healthy neural pathways in your brain – an alternative to reaching out excessively for sugary food, might be to choose a healthier food option 80% of the time and less healthy options 20% of the time.
I also teach self-hypnosis, which will empower you to maintain what we achieve in our sessions as well as reaching your long-term goals.
Where appropriate, I use other complementary therapies alongside hypnosis. These include: hypno-reflexology (where I use hypnotherapy alongside reflexology to deepen relaxation, helping with sleep and relieving stress); sports massage; hot stone massage and Japanese shiatsu.
Clients regularly ask me:
Will you put me 'under'?
During hypnotherapy, you’re not asleep and can get up any time you choose. Your senses are heightened during this period of focused attention. I don’t ‘put you under’ – this is a common misconception. I help you to feel relaxed and in control. In fact, you can find yourself in a natural state of hypnosis every day if, for instance, you drift off, are daydreaming, or lost in a favourite book.
Will hypnotherapy work for me?
The British Society of Clinical Hypnosis estimates that around 85% of people will respond at some level to clinical hypnotherapy. Key to success is the belief that change is possible, being open to trying something new and feeling motivated to change.
What will happen in our sessions?
In our first session I get to know you and your history, so that I can understand your motivations and goals, and the relationship you have with your ‘symptom’. Following this, you will decide on a SMART goal – something that is Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Timely. I will outline my suggested treatment plan and you may choose to experience hypnosis for the first time.
In following sessions, we will begin by reviewing progress with your SMART goal and the agreed treatment plan. We focus on what you want, and always on the positives. I will teach you new mind-relaxation therapy techniques in every session, which you will add to your 'anxiety toolkit'. Practice between sessions will allow you to gain control over your thoughts more quickly and empower you to take charge of your symptom.
The number of sessions depends on your level of motivation, your expectations, the complexity of your symptom and your ultimate goal.
What can I expect from hypnotherapy?
Hypnotherapy uses the state of hypnosis to manage an unwanted habit, behaviour or medical problem. As a highly trained clinical hypnotherapist, my role is to keep you safe and empower you to always be in control. The National Institute of Clinical Excellence (NICE) and the British Medical Journal (BMJ) endorse clinical hypnotherapy as being effective in relieving psychological and physical symptoms, and improving quality of life, alongside cognitive behavioural therapy, relaxation and mindfulness therapies, all of which I incorporate into hypnosis.
Can you give me four quick ways of managing anxiety?
1. Identify the symptoms
When you feel anxious or panicky, the symptoms can be terrifying. They can include tightness in the chest, rapid breathing, raised heart rate and dizziness. Anxiety is usually caused by a build-up of adrenaline which your body can’t cope with – you then become even more anxious, creating a vicious cycle. It almost feels like your body is under physical attack.
By learning to recognise when you are feeling anxious, you can identify exactly what is going on and take steps to reduce anxiety, such as deep breathing, or even just removing yourself from a situation. The more often you do this, the easier it will be to reduce your anxiety levels.
Anxiety is often associated with the ‘flight fight response’. In animals this can be described as a switch which easily turns off when fear has passed. However the human switch is left on as our ability to think, imagine and feel means we can create a virtual world including things we have never seen before.
The resulting stress response includes a never ending spiral of emotions fuelled by what we create in our imagination and the constant flow of adrenaline produced by everyday stressors.
2. Stop it before it starts
When you are feeling anxious, there are steps you can take to reduce it, but you can also stop it before it starts, by identifying the cause or trigger. Do you get anxious in certain circumstances, such as having to do a work presentation, or in crowded public places? Or you might have a fear of spiders, dogs, flying or something else?
If you find that there are times you regularly get anxious, then avoiding them might be a solution in the short-term. If you can’t avoid them, then there are steps you can take such as breathing techniques, meditation and even self-hypnosis.
It’s also worth remembering that you have been in this situation before and you got through it, and you will again – positive self-talk can be a great help.
3. Learn to relax
When you feel anxious, it’s like your mind and body are going at 100 miles an hour. The good news is that we can train our minds (and our bodies) to relax. After all, we were born relaxed. One of the most effective ways is through diaphragm breathing, which helps slow down your breathing and heart rate, and the thoughts that may have been racing through your mind. You can practice this both when you are feeling anxious or if you know a stressful event is going to come up. With a relaxed, clear mind, you can empower yourself and take charge of your life.
4. Be kind to yourself
If anxiety is part of your everyday life, then self-care is vital. Get regular movement and exercise to flush away unwanted adrenaline from the body. Eat natural foods, unprocessed foods and drink plenty of water. Avoid caffeine and alcohol as they are known to increase anxiety. Get outdoors and interact with people more, and spend less time with IT and gadgets.
Don’t overload yourself. Simple is good. Getting regular time out, in a quiet place, to relax and unwind is key.
I also incorporate in sessions a combination of:
Including progressive muscle relaxation, to calm the mind and reduce the body's physiological and psychological stress response.
Originates from the Buddhist religion, and is achieved by focusing awareness on the present moment, accepting and embracing thoughts, feelings and sensations regarding a current challenge. The breath is used as an anchor for relaxation. Helps to reduce the chaos in the mind.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
Habits are conditioned and reinforced every time a behaviour is repeated. The aim is to replace the old conditioned response with healthier behaviour, opening up to new possibilities which are consistent with your goal. Change moves from a negative mindset to a positive one. Increasingly thoughts are dealt with constructively and logically, and catastrophic thinking re-appraised.
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“Speaking in large groups has always made me feel extremely anxious which is difficult to manage when my job requires presenting to my colleagues and clients. I have tried different techniques including CBT which helped initially but I would find myself in the same cycle of being uncontrollably nervous so that I am shaking and then worrying that will happen again. I have had 5 hypnotherapy sessions with Emma and they have made a huge difference to my confidence. She makes an effort to understand you so that she can tailor her sessions. As she suggested I have been listening regularly to voice recordings of each session which has been especially helpful before challenging situations, such as an interview I attended recently. Listening to her calming voice and using her relaxation techniques meant that I was able to successfully present to a large group of people today and for that I am extremely grateful for her help.” (H Dryden, Guildford)
"I met Emma many years ago when she was doing on-site reflexology at my offices. That in itself was very relaxing. However, I went to see her recently for a course of hypnotherapy to help with Bruxism (teeth clenching at night). It has been very helpful and had more effective results than any other treatment I have sought for it. I am still listening to the recordings months later, as they really do make a difference and help me to get a deeper, more effective night’s sleep." (L Harding, Epsom)
For more testimonials please visit my testimonial page in the 'About Emma' section of my website.
"I overcame my lifelong fear of Tarantulas following hypnosis!"